The year is quickly moving to an end and you are soon to face another Christmas dinner with the family being all curious about your private life. Which… well, doesn’t particularly exist at the moment. Maybe you’d dated someone this year, but it didn’t work out, or you decided to give up on dating all together and wait for something magical to happen. Whatever your situation is, the last thing you want is having to explain yourself to a curious crowd of relatives. Worst case scenario, they might even try to set you up with someone. Although that does sound terrible, it actually turned out quite well for Bridget!
I am being asked way too often about the use of online dating and whether it is possible to find your other half there. My answer is YES! Totally! But… if you know what you are doing. Like in everything in life, online dating requires a little caveat. It does work for those who are not afraid to show their true selves not only on the website profile, but bring their own selves to the first date.
Humanity’s best way to learn has always been through a story. We hear many stories every day, some of them simply go past our ears, but some touch us deeply, make our heart beat quicker and take our breath away. Those are the stories we most resonate with, those that make us realise we’ve been in the same situation, we’ve made the same mistakes, and we’ve learnt the same lessons.
When we become involved in a relationship, we naturally change or adopt our behaviours to our partner’s ones. These might be small habits like eating take-away on Friday night or sleeping longer on Sunday, or more serious decisions like giving up smoking or learning new skill together. As relationship evolves partners exchange their behavioural attitudes and become more alike with time. Most of us would have seen on a friend example. He or she gets involved with someone and becomes a completely new person, acts differently, picks up new interests, often even dresses differently, and in many cases doesn’t spend as much time with “old friends” any more.
Whether your partner doesn’t show up to a date, forgets about your birthday, or has no time for you at all, stop coming up with excuses of his busyness, tiredness or whatever it might be. He or she is just irresponsible and not attentive enough therefore is not worth your pain.
There is no reason for you to fall a victim to the circumstances and accept someone treating you worth than you deserve. Most of the time people with lower self-esteem or many failures in the past relationships are ready to sacrifice anything for the next one to work, even if it means letting yourself down and agree to much less than they were dreaming about.