Mood is such a tricky thing to understand, and even harder so to control. There is no magic way of affecting it, let along instantly changing it to a positive state. Yet, some people seem to be always happy, while others spend most of their time mumbling and complaining with no particular reason. So, what’s the difference? And is it possible to decide what mood you want to be in in any particular moment in time. The answer is – yes, it is not only possible, but is relatively simple to achieve.
We all have stories we tell ourselves. Whether positive or negative, they affect our life without us even realizing it. Very often I hear – “Oh, there are just not enough good men out there!”, or “Or girls are mean and nagging” or “No one would ever love me, I am just not good enough” and so on. This might come from our history, life perception, or in worst case scenario – from our social circle’s opinions about us. Too often people make premature judgements and bring up their “clever assumptions” not knowing how hurtful or even damaging it can be to the other person.
A lot has been said about the importance of emotional connection between the two people in love. It almost creates an invisible co-dependency. If your partner is in a bad mood or feeling low, it easily affects you without you even noticing and the same is true the other way around. Unfortunately a negative state often wins.