What is happiness for you? Perhaps, success, money, fame, or maybe falling in love. There is no one size suits all scenario in here. Especially when talking about happiness in intimate relationships. As our world develops, in science and technology, so do our relationships with other people. So, let’s explore our options in modern relationships. We can be single and willing to stay single...
The year is quickly moving to an end and you are soon to face another Christmas dinner with the family being all curious about your private life. Which… well, doesn’t particularly exist at the moment. Maybe you’d dated someone this year, but it didn’t work out, or you decided to give up on dating all together and wait for something magical to happen. Whatever your situation is, the last thing you want is having to explain yourself to a curious crowd of relatives. Worst case scenario, they might even try to set you up with someone. Although that does sound terrible, it actually turned out quite well for Bridget!
We all have stories we tell ourselves. Whether positive or negative, they affect our life without us even realizing it. Very often I hear – “Oh, there are just not enough good men out there!”, or “Or girls are mean and nagging” or “No one would ever love me, I am just not good enough” and so on. This might come from our history, life perception, or in worst case scenario – from our social circle’s opinions about us. Too often people make premature judgements and bring up their “clever assumptions” not knowing how hurtful or even damaging it can be to the other person.
I like the scene in the movie “Couples retreat” when one of the couples talk to the therapist, they said “we are happy, meaning we are making it through (marriage)”. Even though it is a typical Hollywood comedy, it can teach us a lot about loving relationships. Making it through is not a bad way of handling a partnership, but is it happiness in abundance?